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  • I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
    I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
    by Brené Brown
  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
    The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
    by Brene Brown

    Now available for pre-order!

curriculum now available!

on my nightstand
  • When You Reach Me
    When You Reach Me
    by Rebecca Stead

    Our August mother/daughter book club pick. Ellen just finished it and she absolutely loved it!

  • A Whole New Mind
    A Whole New Mind
    by Daniel Pink
  • The Ice Princess: A Novel
    The Ice Princess: A Novel
    by Camilla Lackberg

    Sounds promising.

  • Juliet, Naked: a novel
    Juliet, Naked: a novel
    by Nick Hornby

    Loving this.

  • The Fabric of Her Dancing Shoes
    The Fabric of Her Dancing Shoes
    by Terri St. Cloud

    Terri is one of my favorite soul poets! She's the woman behind Bone Sigh Arts and several of my all-time favorite quotes, including: "Maybe being brave is no more than staring down the 'less than' feeling and stepping up to the 'i am worthy' feeling."

  • One Day
    One Day
    by David Nicholls
sing & dance
  • Archive Series 2
    Archive Series 2
    by Don Walser

    There's nothing like a good yodel and he's the best.

  • Exile on Main Street
    Exile on Main Street
    by Rolling Stones

    If you could only listen to two RS songs for the rest of your life, what would they be?  For me . . . Waiting on a Friend and Beast of Burden. No question.

  • Down in New Orleans
    Down in New Orleans
    by The Blind Boys of Alabama

    One of my favorite versions of "I'll Fly Away."

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Illustration Nicholas Wilton
Css Design Krystyn Heide
Cool Signpost David Robinson
Sky paper Weeds & Wildflowers
Background paper Sande Krieger  

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Tuesday
Nov172009

inspiration interview with laura mayes + giveaway!

I started the Inspiration Interview Series because I wanted to know more about the people who share their work with the world and inspire me to practice courage, be creative, and dream big. Laura Mayes is one of those people!

Meet Laura!

© Karen Walrond

Laura spent several years as an ad agengy VP, where she wrote for a variety of Fortune 500 companies and metaphoric rock stars.

She is one of the founders of Kirtsy - a social media platform of pure goodness. A site for women, run by women, and about women! Her partners in crime are  Gabrielle Blair, who most of us know as Design Mom, Laurie Smithwick who blogs at Upside Up, and Gwen Bell , a social media guru and consultant!

In addition to her work at Kirtsy, Laura is a lover of great finds, bargains, and design, she also writes for a variety of new-fangled blogs, review sites, and publications including The Queso and Cool Mom Picks.

In her 128 hours of weekly spare time, she enjoys hanging with her brilliant husband, chasing their energetic son (Harry the Hurricane) around the house, and destroying food for dinner parties. She also really digs enchiladas and Elvis and would be extremely happy to talk to you at any given moment about the benefits of New York, British music, design magazines, and carbs.

Today is a big, big day for Laura, Kirtsy, and a whole bunch of us who were lucky enough to be part of the first Kirtsy book! It's launch day for this:

This is a collection of great blog posts, inspirational designs and provocative juxtapositions. It has all the energy of kirtsy, but you can carry it in your bag and you don't need wifi to read it. It will introduce you to the kirtsy chicks, their 22 amazing editors, top bloggers and women from around the world.

I'm so exctied to have a piece in this little piece of history.

Katherine Center wrote the forward for the book and also made this amazing book trailer!

I've known Laura for a little over a year, but it feels like forever when we're together. Part of it is the shorthand that comes from being hardcore Texans. It's a kindred spirit thing that you can't mask with Prada sunglasses. Can you see the reflection of Katherine's one-horned bull in her shades? Yes. Katherine is also from Texas and she has a bull. On a ranch.

 

Here's my top three "How Laura inspires me" list:

1. Her sheer determination and persistence. We say "Get 'er done!" down here. She's that kinda girl.

2. Her ability to be extremely serious and extremely funny at the same time. Some people choose. She doesn't.

3. Her hopefulness is contagious. She's a true believer. I love that about her.

Inspiration Interview

Here is the best part! I came up with this standard format for the Inspiration Series after thinking, "What do I want to know about people?"

I want to know about their humanity, their ordinary-ness, their pjs.

Enjoy!

Creativity and Inspiration:

What is your writing process? Direct. I almost always publish in first draft. I realize this goes against all of the planet’s writing laws, but it’s a time thing. I picked up this habit writing on super tight deadlines for a very busy ad agency. I’ve discovered that if I go back and re-read and edit and all, I’ll never stop; and I’ll never get anything else done in a day. Now I ride the stream of consciousness, and subconsciously self-edit as I go. It’s not the optimal process, but it’s optimal for me. Because I’ve learned that getting something done is much more important than doing it perfectly. Because it will never be perfect.

How would you characterize your relationship with writing? Writing is an adventure for me. I almost never know where something will take me when I write. I sometimes have a general idea about where I want to go, but I usually wind my way off the track a bit. In the end, I always make it home. Eventually.  

What are your greatest creative inspirations? I write best with headphones blaring to Doves, Blur, Koop, Rufus Wainwright, Kings of Convenience, Trashcan Sinatras, Gomez, Imogen Heap, Everything But The Girl, Stone Roses, The Samples, Indigo Girls, Guster, Badly Drawn Boy, Ocean Colour Scene, Mutual Admiration Society, Ben Folds, MGMT, Dixie Chicks, Manic Street Preachers, Avett Brothers, Neil Finn, Pernice Brothers, Zero 7, The Bird and The Bee, The Rifles, Ra Ra Riot, Muse, Phoenix, and The Pains of Being Pure at Heart, to name a few. Music is my coffee.

From James Lipton, host of Inside the Actor’s Studio

What is your favorite word? Tie between specificity and simplicity.

What is your least favorite word? Either indecision or kerfluffle. I can’t decide.  

What sound or noise do you love? Thunderstorm rain. 

What sound or noise do you hate? When my son is sad, he makes this very specific sad noise. It breaks my heart.  

What is your favorite curse word? Horseshit.

*** A quick note *** I laughed so hard when I read that Laura's favorite curse word is "horseshit!" Why? Because I just said it a couple of days ago, when I was really, really mad. I don't say it very often, but when I do I sound just like my dad. My voice changes and everything. In Texas, there's a huge difference between bullshit and horseshit.

From JL’s Uncle Jessie Meme

A song/band/type of music you'd risk wreck & injury to turn off when it comes on the radio?   I read a quote once that said no matter how splintered we are as a country, I think we can all agree that they play way too much Nickelback on the radio. 

Best show on television?  Mad Men.

Favorite movie? Tie between Sliding Doors and Amelie.

Favorite room in your house? My kitchen. 

Best concert? This is an impossible question. So I’ll go with my first: Elvis. And no I’m not as old as you would think. Swear.

Brass or strings?  Brass.

If you could have anything put on a t-shirt what would it be? N'est-ce Pas?

The best part about being your age? The not caring part.

Favorite Girl Scout cookie? Thin Mint. Duh.

Poker or gin or bridge? Gin. It’s the only one I understand.

Shower or bath? Gigantic enormous way-too-long super hot bath.

Favorite pajamas? Flannel. Even in summer.  

Nightmare job? Anything on TV.  

A talent you wish you had? Drawing/painting. 

Dream vacation? A month in Italy with unlimited funds.  

What’s on your nightstand? Grace Eventually by Anne Lamott, three tiny trucks, and a glass of gingerale.

From the famous “Weird Things” blogoshpere meme

Tell us 3 weird things about you:

1. I’ve not seen most movies. So people totally freak out that I haven’t seen (fill in the blank).

2. I own more shoes than I do underwear. Swear.

3.  When I’m old and retired, I want to move to a tiny apartment in New York City.

From Smith Magazine’s Not Quite What I Was Planning: Six Word Memoirs from Writers Famous and Obscure

A six-word memoir that captures your life as an artist OR your art life.

I decorate ideas with twinkle lights.

"Take a Bow" Giveaway!

To celebrate the new Kirtsy book, we're giving away two signed copies of the new book! The timing is great - what a perfect holiday gift!

All you have to do to win is leave a comment telling us one reason you should take a bow! C'mon! Don't be shy! Give us one tiny reason . . . an accomplishment . . . a "I made it through this moment" . . . or a simple "due to my sheer awesomeness." One tiny thing!

The giveaway ends Thursday night!

Reader Comments (96)

I am so excited about the Kirtsy book! Today I am taking a bow because of the way I meet young people (teens) where they are and shine a light on the awesome things they do. I see that this is becoming the focus of my work and my blog, scatterbeams.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterJet Harrington
I ran a high-end, decorative painting business for 6.5 years and rediscovered my passion for art and marketing. Now I'm back in the corporate world and a more confident, assertive woman on a mission to drive revenue through database marketing. I'm showing companies how to be successful from the back-end, customer data perspective. :) I'm still reinventing the artistic side of me. But I'm proud of all my accomplishments. I'm proud of the digital tribe I've built around me that offers support and great energy, EVERY DAY!

Thank you.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterlucinda
Taking care of myself. Had my annual (long overdue) gyno exam yesterday and scheduled my mammogram for next week. Always look forward to getting those over with!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterCarlotta
I made it through three and a half years (out of the last six) of single motherhood while my husband was overseas (1 year in Korea, the rest in Iraq). Potty training both kids, Christmases, birthdays, everyday life. It's hard to say "I should take a bow" because I know there are many, many others who do the same every day, but I'll do it for you, Brene!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie
loved reading (and watching) this. all of it.

i am taking a bow for the commitment i've made to saying yes to the things (and people) that trigger me. for counting myself among, and not separate, from those creating work that is true and real. for showing up, each and every day, with the intention of recognizing and walking through doorways to greater freedom in my life and, perhaps, inspiring you to do the same.

be well,
lisa
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterdoorways traveler
I made it through a spinal fusion and the recovery last December (all with a 1-year-old), and then I didn't collapse into the fetal position when I found out last week that they had to re-do the surgery this December because of a "failure to fuse" and that I wouldn't be able to pick up my now 2-year-old daughter for 3 more months. I have definitely learned how to enjoy life through pain and to keep my sanity through all of this even with a husband who travels for work every Monday through Thursday.

Thanks for having this today, Brene! It came as a much needed time of reflection for me.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterChristi
Because I still have faith despite all evidence to the contrary...

Fun post and thought-provoking as usual. Thanks!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterKelly H
I wrote some poetry and took some photo; made it into a book and now I try to sell it. I feel a bit of my soul is in this book and when people buy it they are taking it with them on their journey.

xoxo

ps. love love love that Laura doesn't edit much and goes with her first draft, now I don't feel so weird that I do the same thing :)
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterstef
i'm taking a bow because despite all to the contrary in business, i think being a woman is what i'd like to celebrate. i have the edge with empathy, warmth, and intuition....all of which make the men very scared!

thank you for a wonderful post about laura. i knew i'd like her after i read she likes the show 'mad men' like me!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterjulie p
I'm taking a bow because I finally decided to take the leap and add on to my little house. It's a big project and I was nervous, but I know the gains will out way the current construction headaches.

Thanks for the great post!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterrebeka
i deserve to take a bow, because in spite of all the negative events over the past two weeks in my family, i have managed to maintain my positive outlook. i have spent most of my life being pessimistic + negative, so this is a big change for me!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterrachael
I got an award at work, and I am moving into a new apartment with one of my best friends.... and mom and dad aren't putting down a PENNY for it! It's all MINE and it feels wonderful!!!!!!!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAllison
taking a bow becasue I finished my masters program and passed my board exams and am nowa marriage and family therapist...after rearing 5 kids, I always knew I wanted to do this, and it seemed too far away and too much money..BUT I DID IT! yay me! (applause fades as I bow, then curtsey, then bow again.) Thank you she says with a sparkle in her eye.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDelene
It's a little one.

I'd like to take a bow because I didn't yell or hurt anyone when I discovered yesterday that the cat I just adopted from a rescue organization is infested with fleas (despite the fact that they told me she had been recently flea treated). I'm also proud to say that I (still) think she is a pretty sweet kitty, in spite of her infestation.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterRonda
I will take an bow for being in charge of my health. After discovering I had a very high probability of breast and ovarian cancer, I had a mastectomy 2 years ago, decided to lose a bunch of weight, and I followed it up with a total hysterectomy this year. I'm 37.

I HATED that I had to make these choices but that's life. I had to "get er done!", even while raising little ones and being a grad student.

In the process of all of this I have had to facilitate a lot of other womens' feelings about ME doing these things. I know reactions are often about their own fears, insulating themselves from hard things... I had to recognize that and keep marching forward for me, for my kids.

I've made a decision to stop being apologetic for doing big things well.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterHeather
I was emotionally available to myself this morning...sometimes it's the hardest thing I can do.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterErin
I WILL march right down to my 5 year old's school and tell them that he cannot get a new teacher AND he will not move from am to pm kindergarten after he has already been there for 3 months. He works great with a routine and this move would be really hard on him...and me.

I will. Today.
and then I will bow.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie
I will take a bow because we are going handmade for the holidays despite my full-time job as a veterinarian and full-time job as a parent. Woot!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterShalet
i am going to take a bow for surviving my husband's admittance to the hospital for atrial fib. at the ripe old age of 41. i did the right thing taking him in and i managed to keep the rest of life afloat while we waited for his heart to return to normal. and now he's home!

i totally am taking a bow....and then i'm taking a nap.

www.wendymckeehan.typepad.com
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterwendy
Wow, hats off to Stephanie up above. Wow...okay, backing away from the comparison thing that makes me put my hat back on and not bow to myself...I 'm taking my bow for the small act of buying Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer (whose writing I have a huge crush on...).

I don't plan on giving up meat (don't think my house full of Irish men will let me) but I want to make informed choices on where the food we eat comes from...but I'm scared to death of reading this book and having to make the changes once I know more...
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDeirdre
I am taking a bow today because out of all the choices I could have made today, I chose to take it all in. I could have been angry and pissed off this morning when my two year old was awake from 3am -- 5:30 am and my alarm went off at 6am, but instead, I smiled at her when she popped straight up at 7:00 am from MY bed with a "Breakfast?" and a smile! I choose to remember to take it all in, because in time, it won't be that easy to find this kind of "cute" in her.

Thanks for the post and the continued reminder to find whatever joy there is in the day and if there isn't any... then I should make it!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSus
I take a bow for keeping on and never stopping to dream and believe in dreams coming true!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAvital
Every day I am an invested in my 13-going-on-15 nieces and nephews. Every day I do something for one of them. I am committed to being an interactive, positive adult in each of their lives. It takes a lot of work - and I love it!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterHolly
I've always secretly dreamed of being an artist. I so envy people who can pick up a pencil and draw ... anything. Even my stick people suck.

But, in spite of my artistically challenged hands, I signed up for two artsy e-courses. In the past month, I've played with acrylics, watercolors, glues, glazes, charcoal pencils, markers, collage -- so many cool, amazing art things.

One day I realized my desire to play with art supplies finally out grew my embarassment of my "dis - ability."

I love it. Even my horrible, shameful, sucky things. Love them all. Having fun and not caring a bit about the results. Bliss.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterglad
I took a chance and followed my intuition and even though it made me very uncomfortable and I spent weeks second guessing the decision, it turned out wonderfully!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterThe Other Laura
I started selling my creative works on Etsy and lovin' it!

www.TheLavendarTree.etsy.com
www.TheLavendarTree.blogspot.com
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAnn
Hmm...

I am taking a bow for allowing myself to take a personal/sick day from teaching last week when I really, really needed it.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterMonica L. H.
I am taking a bow because I have worked so hard for the serenity and authentic self I now own. : )

Happy Birthday Brene'!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDeb
I just moved to a new place and started a new job--with minimal melting down =)
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAbbie
I took time for myself today.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDanyelle
I started my blog this year, I'm growing in my scrapbooking to be much more reflective, and I owe it to these amazingly strong and talented women on the web and in my life. Thank you to all of you!!!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterPeggy
I'm taking a bow for just sending in my application to a phd program in education; it's been a life-long dream of mine and after spending the last five years as a stay-at-home mom, i'm taking a giant leap of faith that this is the right thing for me!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterLindy
I'm buying a new house...just because it's a good move, a great deal and no other reason.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commentertawnya
I am taking a bow for being willing to try new things and make myself vulnerable. and for not crying even though I posted photos of something I made that I thought was awesome and no one even commented. A big break through for me to do stuff just for me and not for "critical acclaim".
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterLorie
i would looove this kirtsy book! today i am taking a bow because to being a less stressed out pregnant woman---this time around! :-)
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commentertynan
I took a risk for my yearly observation and taught a higher level geometry lesson to my 3rd graders. They used nets to make 3d shapes and real world objects into nets. (I am scared to death of teaching math...I love to teach reading and writing)

My evaluation was a 4 exceeds standard in every area.

I deserve to take a bow because one of my students told her mother who is also a teacher at my school, "Ms. Chavira did a great math lesson today. It was so good, our principal even stayed to watch" It's not the written score....it's the gratitude of my 3rd graders.

Susan
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSusan Chavira
I am taking a bow because I have lived with Type 1 diabetes just a tiny bit longer than I lived without it. After spending most of that time making it hard to see, making it seem easy to those around me, I'm starting to work on making a less invisible disease while keeping myself as healthy as possible.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAuntly H
I'm taking a leap of faith and my husband and I are moving to NYC!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSaRaH
For the past 3-4 years I have been doing cartwheels in my head regarding my alcohol consumption. Although I had not (yet) entered a dependency stage filled with negative consequences I knew, in my heart of hearts, that my drinking was controlling me and preventing me from being emotionally present to the people I love -- my husband, my teenage sons and my elder parents.

So I take a bow for taking action, joining AA-- without shame or doubt and moving my recovery forward. Life is amazing without alcohol in it and I am so grateful to have finally taken this step. Also, many thanks to Brene for helping me see that you can be a fun and funny person without alcohol (I recently heard you speak at the Council in Houston).
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterLisa C.
i officially adore her and i could talk brit pop and horse shit with her until the cows came home :)
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commenterkelly rae
I am a great cook and cook everyday for my family
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterEve
I created an exit plan for my soul-draining 24/7 job and accomplished it! It was a fairly long-term plan, and included paying off my debt so that I could afford to live on much less. I'm a financially conservative individual and a very responsible "good girl" to boot, so the thought of leaving this job in order to give myself time to explore my passions and options made me nearly catatonic. I created a sensible plan, which helped alleviate some of my anxiety, worked the plan, then took the plunge. Even if a tough economic environment (and it hasn't been easy), my life is so much better than it had been. Good for me!
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterClara
I"m taking a bow because today is my due date with baby #2 and I'm okay that I'm still pregnant.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterThien-Kim
Congrats to all of you fantastic women!! Your Inspiration Interviews are always so much more interesting than 'standard' Q&A...thanks for sharing another beautiful woman with us. :-)

My little bow is that I took (and continue to take) a chance at following my passion for writing...and though I see myself as a constant work-in-progress, I am proud that for once I DON'T see myself as a fraud. Following my passion has become transformational...and I love that, too!
I am braver than I give myself credit for. Wait. I think that was a little credit in my favor...:)
11.17.2009 | Unregistered Commentermichelle a.
I'm taking a big ass bow for the fact I faced my fears about my son's upcoming echocardiogram and they didn't overwhelm me. I'm also not letting those fears dominate my thoughts, but instead refocusing on that life-giving, 2 yr old giggle.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterBrenda
I'd like to take a bow for loving myself enough to leave an unhealthy
relationship and cancelling the wedding.
11.17.2009 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa
Great interview....I think I might like to retire in a tiny NYC apt next door to Laura Mayes.

I am taking a bow for keeping up with schedules for my family of four, getting eveyone where they need to be, feeding them, overseeing homework, chasing the dog, washing school uniforms, running errands, dealing with non-deep thinkers at my office....and not (completely) losing it.
11.18.2009 | Unregistered CommenterPattie
thank you for this tremendous inspiration, brené, laura, katherine and kirtsy.

tiny bow...that i told the truth yesterday...trusted that i could say it, grateful that i did, and inspired by the glee today. gracias.
11.18.2009 | Unregistered Commenterqmama
I'm taking a bow for making it through post-traumatic stress brought on by remembering childhood abuse. It broke down my life completely, but I'm stronger for it and I am more connected to myself because of it. But hell, it was hard.
11.18.2009 | Unregistered CommenterJill

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