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Publications
  • Let's Pretend This Never Happened: (A Mostly True Memoir)
    Let's Pretend This Never Happened: (A Mostly True Memoir)
    by Jenny Lawson
  • Drift: The Unmooring of American Military Power
    Drift: The Unmooring of American Military Power
    by Rachel Maddow
  • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
    Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
    by Susan Cain

    Loved Susan's TED talk! 

  • The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Food from My Frontier
    The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Food from My Frontier
    by Ree Drummond

    The recipes. The photos. The humor. I'm so in! 

  • Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
    Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
    by Harriet Lerner
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
    The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
    by Harriet Lerner

    I reread this every couple of years! So powerful. 

  • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
    The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
    by Harriet Lerner

    C'mon. The subtitle says it all. 

Publications
  • City of Refuge
    City of Refuge
    by Abigail Washburn

    Pure magic!

  • I'm Your Man
    I'm Your Man
    by Leonard Cohen

    Take this Waltz is on my top ten list of all songs!

  • I and Love and You
    I and Love and You
    by The Avett Brothers
Publications
  • Masterpiece Classic: Downton Abbey (Original UK Unedited Edition)
    Masterpiece Classic: Downton Abbey (Original UK Unedited Edition)
    PBS

    So totally addicted to this series! Absolutely amazing!

  • Zen: Vendetta / Cabal / Ratking [Blu-ray]
    Zen: Vendetta / Cabal / Ratking [Blu-ray]
    starring Rufus Sewell

    Based on your recommendations from a recent blog post! It's another wonderful BBC mystery series! 

  • The Good Wife: The First Season
    The Good Wife: The First Season
    starring Julianna Margulies, Chris Noth, Josh Charles, Matt Czuchry, Archie Panjabi

    One of the best shows on TV. Juiliana Marguiles is incredible. 

gifting
Friday
Jun122009

tgif! 

Today is TGIF + pictures.

I'm trusting that it's OK to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop. My life feels so full and exciting right now. In order to take it all in and let myself feel the joy, I have to stop waiting for something to "take it all away." It's a bad habit and I need lots of trust to break it.

I'm grateful for Steve. Yesterday was our 15th wedding anniversary. We started dating in 1987 and got married on June 11, 1994. We've officially known each other longer than we haven't.

1988 Steve's prom - San Antonio, Texas

Last night we were at one of our favorite restaurants in Port Aransas when Steve pulled out the "blue box." Yes, that blue box. The Tiffany's blue box. My first blue box. My sisters started screaming like we were in high school. Steve is a brave guy - he proposed to me on Christmas morning in front of my entire family (two weeks after we broke up). Now this. The blue box had this in it:

 

It's a sterling silver heart designed by architect Frank Gehry. When I opened it, Steve said, "Because I love you with my whole heart."

Sigh.

It was such an amazing gift.

A heart. from Steve. Designed by the guy who did this and this.

I love how it looks like billowy sails (and he gave it to me at the coast).

Sigh again.

 

Taken by Ashley (my sister) with her Sony Cybershot And finally, I'm inspired by Ellen. Tomorrow is her 10th birthday. She's experiencing so many changes right now that I can almost see them unfolding. Sometimes she looks at me with eyes that say, "What's happening? Will I be OK? Take care of me!" Other times her eyes say, "I'm so excited. Isn't this great? Give me more space!" I'm inspired by her ability to move through all of this with kindness and an open heart. I'm learning from her.

Canon Rebel xti - Ellen in Port A Happy TGIF everyone! Share the love!

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those are such great pictures! congrats on the anniversary. i was all about getting my hair that curly and big then, too! woo hoo! hahaha i know you made girls jealous with amount of height and volume...!! i'm not a parent yet but i know it's got to be incredible and scary and exciting to watch your daughter go through those changes. God bless you for coming out with the parenting book. i know i'll read it from cover to cover so i can help my child live wholeheartedly. i'm SO excited about that. (no pressure, of course) :)

I am trusting that I can get my head, mind and spirit back centered this weekend after a period of much craziness and disconnection. yuck. I am also trusting that I will do a great job tonight at one of my first real gigs in about 3 years. I'm going to rock the house.

I'm grateful for the weekend and free time to play, for self-nurturing and reflection. And sleep!

I'm inspired by the fact that God keeps opening doors, "learning" me a thing or two and helping me be mindful and thankful about everything I've got (as opposed to thinking I don't have enough).
06.12.2009 | Unregistered Commenteranna k.
p.s. have a great weekend everybody!
06.12.2009 | Unregistered Commenteranna k.
Very nice post. The heart is so beautiful. The sentiment more beautiful...
I quoted you awhile ago (June 9) on my blog. I've had a lot of people tell me they love it. Thanks.
Have a great weekend.
Happy Birthday to Ellen!
Andrea
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAndrea
Happy Anniversary! Woo Hoo
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSandi K
Congratulations, Brene, on your anniversary. You're making me just a tiny bit homesick for the Texas Gulf Coast with the Port Aransas stuff; I love that town, and I love that part of the coast.

I am trusting myself to walk into some uncomfortable-ish physical and emotional places right now. I'm pushing my boundaries in my yoga practice, something that is both scary and fun (please ignore my bruises from falling over from crow pose last night). I'm gradually opening my heart up to someone who I really do care about, trying to lean with (instead of fighting) the connection that we seem to have. He makes my world a richer, more amazing place; my hope is to revel in that.

I am grateful for the time and space I've had this week to work creatively. I know, calling my research "creative work" seems a little goofy, but it helps to alleviate the tedium that can come with analyzing data. Being able to just walk away at any point during the day to clear my head has been the truly wonderful part and is what has helped me to keep moving forward.
I am also grateful that this business with my right knee/ leg is "just" a bone bruise or stress fracture of my tibial plateau. Either way, the injury doesn't stand in the way of cycling in Bordeaux.

I am inspired by the crazy monsoons we've had all week. Granted, I've been crabby because I've been wanting to get out on my bike and the rainstorms have precluded that until today. But the rain.....I do love the rain. There's something healing about it, and I'm enjoying the lush green jungle-ness of my yard that isn't requiring irrigation.

Happy Friday!
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAmalia
Congrats on your Anniversary and on Ellen!

I am TRUSTING this whole grad school process! I am trusting that my undergrad experience, with all of its imperfections, will be enough. I am trusting that I will be where I am supposed to be.

I am INSPIRED by my grandmother. She just turned 80 and is so sharp and with it and so loving. She has never stopped learning.

I am GRATEFUL that the newest member of our family, my brother's dog Buddy, is perfectly ok after being hit by a car yesterday. My brother walked out the front door and Buddy bolted. The front bumper hit him and then he ducked under the car. and he is FINE. Not a scratch. Our old Sheltie, Prancer, is his guardian angel.
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAllison
Happy Anniversary Brene and Happy TGIF to all -- continue to look forward to this every week! Love to read what everyone shares -- thank you!

Today I'm trusting that everything will go fine with a program I'm responsible for tomorrow. The stakes went up when I learned that CSPAN is taping it (of all crazy things).

I'm grateful for the lovely bracelet that arrived safe and sound yesterday, which I will definitely be wearing tomorrow as a source of support. Thank you Brene!

I'm inspired by the peaceful and insightful words of Thich Nhat Hanh. Am especially resonating with his "Living Without Stress or Fear" audio set that I'm listening to these days. This is a tall order in my life. I'd be happy to be living with LESS stress or fear, but I like that he aims high:)
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterLiz
congratulations, Brene and Steve, on your anniversary. that HEART is beautiful, and oh-so-meaningful when accompanied by what he said ... "I love you with my whole heart." a page out of your own book, eh? :-) what a guy. how wonderful of you to share it with us -- we like the happy stuff!

TGIF:

I am trusting ... I'm not sure what I'm trusting these days. I'd like to say "my instincts", or "my faith", but it's been a very challenging week and I feel like I did everything wrong. So whatever I was trusting - wasn't working. guess that happens sometimes.

I am grateful for ... my sense of humor. because when I do screw up, I need something to take the "i am so not worthy and i am so stupid sometimes" EDGE off of things. if I can keep laughing - at and with myself, quite often -- it helps. a bit.

I am inspired by ... again, it's been a rough week so I have to pull this out of my hat. in general, I am inspired by - people who are strong in the face of adversity; and on an aesthetic level, I am inspired by artists who aren't afraid to use color and words to convey a particular meaning.

TGIF, everyone.

-- Davi
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDavielle
Congratulations for everything. I tend to be a "waiting for the shoe to drop" person. It's defeating and useless. Therefore:

Today I am grateful for the courage to STOP WAITING and go for it, come what may.

I am utterly grateful for creativity and beauty.

I am inspired to keep working on my book and pray that someone will believe enough to take it on.

TGIF and THANK YOU Brene!
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterGabrielle
I am glad you had an awesome anniversary! That rocks! Thanks for aharing the beautiful pics and glimpse into what matters to you.

I am:
trusting that I have the stamina and problem solving skills to support my partner in going for what she wants.
grateful that the court has set a date to finalize our daughter's adoption after a year of delays. In 3 weeks we will legally be the moms of this awesome girl. Woo hoo!
inspired by the power of unexpected forgiveness, stumbling across a place in my heart to feel more compassion and understanding for an estranged friend and the courage to reach out and make amends and move further down the road to being close again. Awesome!
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterMaria
Congratulations on everything. Happy for you.Thanks for sharing your pictures.

I am trusting that I can keep growing and unfolding as look for work. I find job hunting draining, but I trust that everything will work out at some point.

I am grateful for the opportunity to design a brochure to support a program that serves children and families.

I am inspired by the love I received last week from my 3-year-old nephew.

Happy TGIF everyone!
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterKris
I am SO very happy for you. such a great post. This made me very happy tonight....because it's all about me right? :)
06.12.2009 | Unregistered Commenterkrista
Love the pictures and the post .... I've been missing the read along ...

Today I'm trusting that I haven't overloaded myself for the next two weeks. It will all be okay.

I'm grateful for vegetable gardens.

I'm inspired by movies that make me cry and sunny warm weather (finally!!!).
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterMonica
Happy Anniversary! Thanks for sharing the good stuff as well as the hard stuff. Love the fullness of it all.

I'm trusting that I will get to my fitness goal this year even if it takes time and detours and ups and downs. Okay, maybe "trying to trust" is more accurate.

I'm grateful for my the strange land of Moab, where I live. For good neighbors and interesting tourists and beautiful landscape and the coolest June we've ever had. Love it.

I'm inspired by my sons. Aidan and I went to the public pool this evening and he just reveled in it, so happy, so fully alive, so joyful just to be in the water. My son Sean is the one extrovert in a family of introverts, and I'm inspired by how he wears his need for people on his four-year-old sleeve---so willing to be vulnerable just so as to connect. And Nolie is taking his first brave steps this week. Seems like we all start out living life whole-heartedly, at least until our first "fall".
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDeirdre
beautiful post ~happy anniversary ...
Ih appreciate the description of Ellen and this stage of life it is so true and will continue...they so need a mom who is there for them ...it is quite a ride...blessings ELK
06.12.2009 | Unregistered Commenterelk
You two look better now than you did 15 years ago! My hubbie and I are having our 15th this year also! We started dating in 1987 and married on August 20, 1994~
06.12.2009 | Unregistered CommenterJill D.
oh Brene, you guys look so so happy in that photo, i love it! Congratulations on your anniversary, and the new BOOK!!! :)
06.13.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSusannah
Congratulations!! A beautiful necklace, love it!
06.13.2009 | Unregistered CommenterKaren K
Happy Anniversary! Steve sounds like a keeper :) It is a really beautiful necklace. And congrats on the publishing news. I am so excited!!!
This week I am trusting Kirk. He has been encouraging my to do this workshop that has been swirling around in my head and heart for the past year, but I was to nervous to step out and get in front of people and do it. He is giving me a little push to get out there.
I am thankful that it is going really well and feels really good to do. It is my first speaking experience where my love for the subject matter outweighs my nerves and discomfort with being up front. It is a breakthrough for me, and I am humbled and thankful.
I am totally inspired by the folks that I get to work with. Truly some of the most courageous men and women I have ever known. Dealing with some really hard stuff with dignity and grace.

You have been on my mind a lot these last couple of weeks. So glad the summer is off to a great start! Can't wait for the new books! Woo hoo!
06.13.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAVZC
It's saturday, but I'm still putting Trust, gratitude and inspiration into getting to know myself a bit better and have just bought your book as a gift to myself.

The necklace is beautiful :)
06.13.2009 | Unregistered CommenterLucy
What a wonderful present. It's beautiful.

I'm trusting in the great work that I did in the read along.

I'm grateful for even more new things I am learning. Reading a book called "Your Money or Your Life."

I'm inspired by my friends in my support group.
06.13.2009 | Unregistered CommenterDeb J
I actually have 80's dress envy right now! So in love with the love you and Steve share. Also, Ellen...boy, what a pretty precious soul. She looks like a sweet english doll - those rosy cheeks! And the kindness and open heart shows. It always does. Thank you Ellen for spreading the kindness! Thank you, Brene for ALL OF IT!!

Blessings,
MIchelle
06.14.2009 | Unregistered Commentermichelle a.
Congratulations. You are a wonderful example of living wholly, truly and authentically. Thank you for sharing your life and example with me. I need it! Thank you.
06.14.2009 | Unregistered Commenterjanet
wow brené, deeply resonate with your tgif this week...thank you.

i am trusting my capacity to embrace all the good in my life right now (without fearing/worrying about deserving it, losing it, needing to continue earning it...aargh!).

i am also grateful for my husband. we celebrated our 10-year wedding anniversary on friday (together since 1993).

i am inspired by my husband's poetry.

happy anniversary to you and steve, and happy birthday to ellen. wishing you a celebration-soaked week.
06.15.2009 | Unregistered Commenterqmama
Wow, what a beautiful anniversary! I know you will never forget it. :)
06.15.2009 | Unregistered CommenterAndi
Hi - I actually tried to post this on Saturday from my Bberry... but it didn't work.... which may have been just as well, as I was having a rather bad day....

Congratulations Brene - and the necklace is staggeringly beautiful. Lucky, lucky girl!

Today I'm trusting that I have the guts and strength to go through with the decision I have made, and the hard conversation which it necessitates. I hate disappointing people, and this conversation is going to disappoint someone very much. But I know it's the right decision for me, and I can't keep organising myself around keeping other people happy. I've already chicken out once, so I'm really trusting that I can dig deep and find the strength today.

Today I'm grateful for the way I feel when I stop worrying and actually start getting things done. I get myself tied in knots sometimes, and sometimes you just need to act rather than worrying about whether you're doing it exactly right.

Today I'm inspired.... nope... still not really inspired by anything. So praying to rediscover that part of myself which used to feel inspired all the time...

Thanks
06.15.2009 | Unregistered CommenterCarolyn
Since I only work on weekends, it's quite fitting that I TGIM :)
Trusting: that this summer will be relaxing & FUN
Grateful: for the e-mail that came today saying my girls officially have slots next year in the brand new charter school we applied to (one that, had I written the proposal, would have been exactly what this one aspires to be)
Inspired: by ITIWJM...have been re-reading...it's so what I need!

Thanks so much for sharing, Brene! Congrats on your anniversary (The gifts, sentiment & necklace, are beautiful!). Also, happy birthday to Ellen! Time flies...
Hope you all had a great weekend & have a wonderful week!
06.15.2009 | Unregistered CommenterJustinV
happy anniversary to you and Steve.......can't say I am inspire by anyone or anything right now clouded too much at the moment by my own judgement..ho hum
06.16.2009 | Unregistered Commentercorinna
Oh soo nice to share in those radiant photos of you, Steve and your wholesomely beautiful little girl! So glad you are savoring it all and rejecting that 'other shoe dropping' stuff (and I always wonder if women are more prone to that than men...).

ahh, the Tiffany box - an experience unto itself, and I keep any/all boxes!

I am late for the Friday deal, but since I just returned from Cape Cod, I feel the need to put it out there:

Trusting that our long term plans to be bi-coastal will work out exactly as they should

So very grateful for my friend and creative partner Bonnie and the natural beauty surrounding her home and our apparently limitless ability to goof and laugh, while still being able to encourage and respect each other's work

Inspired by my husband's incredibly loyal and loving heart and generous spirit as he quietly moves mountains.
06.16.2009 | Unregistered CommenterSylvia V

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